Lost Childhood Jul08

Lost Childhood

She was just 5 years old when he slid his hands between her legs for the first time. He? He was her own cousin. It was just another lazy night for me when my friend told me about her childhood. It took me some time to realize the fact that she was sexually assaulted when she was just a child,...

Rape. Whose fault is it? Jul05

Rape. Whose fault is it?

Yesterday, when I went online, half of my newsfeed was populated with reports and articles about Maria Sharapova not knowing Sachin Tendulkar. My first thoughts were, how is it that there is not even half this response to the rape cases happening all over the country? I was just telling my neighbour that the number of people reacting to this issue is literally more than half the number of people who reacted to the UP rape case , which happened on 30th may this year. That’s when he carelessly commented that there are so many rape cases, how can we keep tabs on them? As in seriously, if it was your daughter or sister being raped would you...

Battling ignorance on the frontlines Jun11

Battling ignorance o...

The constitution of this nation states that it is every citizen’s duty to develop scientific temper. Which means that it is every citizen’s duty to pursue the truth using the scientific method, emperically and to make it known to everyone if there is any kind of foul play...

We are what we are. Can we change? Jun11

We are what we are. Can we change?

We are the social animals, but incidentally, every weak species in the planet are social. The weak find strength in numbers. The numbers ensure one thing, at times of distress, the chances of survival from within a group is more than the chances of survival when alone.A pack of deer, say a hundred strong, when hunted by Lions, might lose one or two, which is acceptable. Ninety eight survived, which is 98% survival rate. If it was a five strong pack, death of one reduces the survival rate to 80%. So the group has more survival rate, the weak lives together, the strong hunts alone.So , is being social a sign of strength? Or is it a show of...

Never Too Much Love Jun10

Never Too Much Love

If we are honest with our selves, with  the deepest parts of our soul, we instinctually know that sexuality is not a neat concept with a stamp and seal of FOREVER on it.  It isn’t simply being attracted to one person, one gender, one expression of love or passion or about sex.  It is many things to each person as well as changeable in both definition and expression.  Humans  try and make sense of love and matters of the heart by making everyone follow the same rules whether imposed by society, a culture, or worse – a religion.   Supposedly life won’t be nearly as messy/chaotic/real/shocking when we all follow the same...

Physics, Biology, Chemistry and “Shastra” Jun06

Physics, Biology, Ch...

I am from a country which cleanly has a convoluted and mistaken idea about what is “Science”. It has all to do with what is being called as “Shastra”, a word that denotes “Science” among other things. But then when we consider all the “other things” that “Science” is involved  in India, I...

How to warn your child about this Irrational World Jun06

How to warn your child about this Irrational World

To my dearest daughter, Now that you are ten, I want to write to you about something that is important to me. Have you ever wondered how we know the things that we know? How do we know, for instance, that the stars, which look like tiny pinpricks in the sky, are really huge balls of fire like the Sun and very far away? And how do we know that the Earth is a smaller ball whirling round one of those stars, the Sun? The answer to these questions is ‘evidence’. Sometimes evidence means actually seeing (or hearing, feeling, smelling….) that something is true. Astronauts have traveled far enough from the Earth to see with their own eyes that it...

Going Against Ignorance Jun06

Going Against Ignorance

It is a weird world we live in, it is a weird set of people whom we share this world and it is a weird set of philosophies that we live with. Sometimes you see a something that gives you renewed hope in humanity, but many a times it is exasperation and futility that digitally scroll in front of our eyes. We live on the third, blue planet from the Sun, which is a spec on the second arm of the small Milkyway Galaxy: A tiny spec in the vast cosmic ocean. But as Carl Sagan said: “We are a way for the cosmos to know itself”. We are part of such a wondrous event, our cells are made of atoms that were made in super novas, our life a unique...

He, Him and Them. May08

He, Him and Them.

Any gay individual would long to be in love with a man and to have a relationship.  Sanjay, who hails from Kerala and lives in Bengaluru, wanted to be with a man and to start a family together ever since had been in terms with his sexuality and accepted himself about a decade ago. Yes! You...

AI Meetup May 4 May07

AI Meetup May 4

The Against Ignorance Meetup was held at Chai Cofi to rally people for the final push to make the Events planned for May a reality. Ji Jo presided  over the meeting and the conversations lead to separating the Dance and the Pride Ride to different weeks. The event saw many new faces alongside...

Deepak and Don Apr24

Deepak and Don

A conservative society often thinks that same-gender commitment is not possible on a long term; they insist that the government and any religious organizations must not perform witness or bless the rights that unite two individuals of the same gender. We are taught to believe that marriage...

Misunderstood Homophobes Apr16

Misunderstood Homophobes

Being a rational -not a known giver of shits- Indian teenager, I sincerely believe that homophobes are mistreated everywhere. I mean, think about those poor people, often criticized for being complete jerks, assholes and other -not so cool- adjectives. What have they done to deserve something like this!? Since when did being stupid become a crime? To be honest, it takes a lot of guts to come out and admit the fact that you are a complete Idiot. I mean, I am an 18 year old Indian student, acing all my subjects, mugging up stuff and vomiting it on my answer papers three times a year and I have not given a single clue to any of my peers or my...

Superiorly Stupid Questions Apr16

Superiorly Stupid Questions

Superiorly stupid questions I come across as a LGBT rights supporter with answers and explanations. Ever since I started supporting rights of LGBTs, I have been confronted with quite a few exceedingly hilarious questions. 1. What???!! There are people ‘like this’ in Kerala also? You mean people with a different sexual orientation or gender identity than the traditionally defined ones? Yes. The fact that they are not visible in our society shows how non-progressive and non-inclusive we happen to be. Nothing to be proud of. 2. Oh God!! You have gay friends?? I have never seen one in my life. Too bad. Chances are you never will. They’re too...

Equal rights for Transgenders Apr15

Equal rights for Tra...

The honorable Supreme Court on its landmark judgement (dated 15/04/14)on the rights of Transgender community has directed the federal and state governments to bring welfare for the third gender people including education, healthcare and employment opportunities and to aid them overcome...

It’s not a choice Apr12

It’s not a choice

Many a times I have asked myself what if I were not born this way, what if I had only the usual feelings that a guy has to another. My life would have been different for sure, I would not have undergone many chapters of confusion and pain. I would not have felt the need to suppress my emotions. I would not have had to choose living a closeted life. In short, I could have been living a life much free of insecurities and confusions. During my school days, there was this boy whom I used to find really weird. He always behaved as if he were a girl. I found his feminine conducts not befitting to a male. I guess he was ignored by most of the boys...

Being Gay 2 Apr12

Being Gay 2

Let me begin this by showing a picture of the text message that I got after writing my first post on Against Ignorance I never told the person who sent me these messages about my sexuality yet after reading the article, that’s what he had to say. Being gay is not bad or dark, like the movie...

Am I Gay? Apr11

Am I Gay?

There comes a point in lives of every queer individual where she/he needs to accept her/his sexual orientation though one need not come out regarding this. Yes, coming in terms with one’ own sexuality stayed as a herculean task for me too, especially being born as the eldest son in a...

I am proud to say, my grandson is gay Apr10

I am proud to say, my grandson is gay

It was the eve of Delhi Queer Pride parade, 2010. My home seemed like a madhouse. I live in a joint family and that night, we were double the number with my cousins, aunts and uncles who I had invited for a family dinner. I had intimated everyone well in advance and had plans to talk to them about gender and sexuality, and how these come to be experienced in a Punjabi middle class family. Most of the male relatives took a lot of time to come to terms with my sexuality. But it was worth all the effort. It has been four years since I came out to my mom. I was 17 then. The time since then has seen a series of battles with ignorance and hatred;...